Happy Christmas!!!! (And happy Brexit Deal for those of us who care, phew they cut THAT close...)
Congratulations on getting to the end, or just trying some of this out of curiosity. Both are good. But obviously if you’ve actually done some, or hopefully all of the Advent Denial challenge then I’m very proud of you. I hope you’ve enjoyed the journey.
If you’ve managed to do it all, the whole 24 days without cumming, then let me encourage you to celebrate it. Unless there’s a reason you aren’t allowed, have your orgasm today. Don’t deny yourself for longer, just enjoy it. If you decide you want to go longer, that’s great, but I’d encourage you to just go for it today. If you want to include fate in the decision then get a coin, flip it and if it’s heads you can cum. If it’s tails, you’re denied till January 1st. Of course edge yourself senseless before you flip it…
And if you fancy something a bit more risky, how about you may only cum at the moment you’re being called to go and eat Christmas dinner. Everyone should be waiting for you when you finally come down, red and flushed and obviously post orgasmic.
Remember the first orgasm after a longish denial can be, odd, in lots of ways, weak or ruiney, although it can be amazing too. But I normally suggest you don’t just limit yourself to cumming once. Enjoy the evening, and maybe the next few days, cumming as much as you want. It’s Christmas after all!
Cumming IS good. Just not cumming is better.
And don’t worry, you’ll be craving to be denied again before long.
Even if you haven’t filled out a journal on Tumblr, I’d love to hear how the whole experience was for you. So I do encourage you to send me a message or ask letting me know what you learnt and how it went!
Heads up - next week one of the tasks is to use a remote controlled vibe outdoors. If you don’t have one then here’s the perfect excuse to get yourself that special gift.
I’ve tried lots and the uncontested winner is the Lush 2 from Lovense. It’s got the best app, the best connectivity and is quiet and powerful. You can get cheaper ones that have a physical remote but this gives you far more options.
Do NOT be tempted to buy the older Lush v1, Lush 2 is much, much better.
They also have a really interesting new toy that secures into your panties - The Ferri, which is just for clitoral stimulation (the Lush is designed to go in you but can also be pressed against the clit).
Checking out the impact… While a lot of the benefits of edging are internal: being horny, sexual self discovery, better self image, being horny etc - there’s a point where those things overspill into your exterior life too, if you let them, and watch for it.
So that’s today’s task, and really something to be aware of from this point on.
Today your task is to let the benefits of edging affect other people.
So start the day off with a good hard edge, give yourself a little extra time to get ready, enjoy a hot shower, use those things we’ve been exploring, wearing nice underwear, dressing up just a little more than usual, use that denial high I hope you’re experiencing just to feel good about your day and all you’re going to do.
But then on top of that, I want you to slide your fingers into your wet pussy, and apply your scent to your neck and wrists, like perfume. No one is going to noticeably smell this, it’s more about your mindset and possibly, just possibly pheromones.
If possible do a quick top up edge before you go out, and then your task is to be extra aware of how others, especially men, act around you.
I’m suggesting this because time and again, this is the feedback I get. That denial sluts start to notice they get more attention from guys. Some who had close guy friends reported back they were joking they were getting erections around them and they didn’t know why.
I don’t know if it’s because of how you act or some kind of chemical thing or both, but have some fun being an Edge Researcher for the day and report back what you find.
Oh and if you want some more exciting ‘Field Research’ then feel free to top up your 'perfume’ while out at a cafe or store or public bathroom stall. We need all the variables covered!
Fancy a bit of a mind fuck?
The facial cumshot’s become such a standard trope in porn that it got to the point where actually cumming in a woman, now labelled, a cream pie, actually became innovative. This is of course, because with a facial you get to see the male stud show his prowess in all his ejaculatory glory.
Real people don’t do it much in real life, it’s just a porn thing.
Honestly it’s pretty demeaning and humiliating to just have a guy empty his load right on your face. Right?
Which is why it’s perfect for this advent denial mind fuck denial training exercise!
You may like the idea of facials already, in which case this will be easier. But it’ll actually be even more interesting if you don’t, and I encourage you to try it. If you’re lesbian this is an even bigger mindfuck! Plus it’s great sissy training.
Before you start, write a note to yourself about how you feel about facials, semen, being treated like this. Rate out of ten how much you like the idea. If you want to tell me you’re trying it then feel free to send me a message, it might help you stick to it.
Now your training begins.
You are to watch the following video at least three times a day on full screen as you masturbate and edge. (Don’t click these till you’ve read all the instructions).
It’s a 12 minute ‘wall’ of cumshot compilations. You’re to masturbate and edge as you watch and listen to it, imagining you are one of those girls. Focus on different ones as it goes, rub your clit, play with your pussy and ass and pull on your breasts as you dream about being there, on your knees, the warm thick semen splattering over your face and body, encouraging him to cum while you’re denied.
It’ll be best with earphones if you’re sure you won’t be interrupted. If you can kneel then that’s great, but it’s absolutely fine if you can’t. If you start kneeling you have to stay kneeling throughout. If you need to move, restart the video.
You may ONLY masturbate while watching this video. You can only edge, you are not allowed to cum. At least three times, but more if you can. If you can’t watch you can always listen.
Unless something intervenes you have to watch the entire video each time and keep playing and edging until it’s finished.
When the video finishes YOU STOP. You may watch other porn (try some other compilations!) or read tumblr, but you cannot touch unless you are watching this video on full screen. If you start it again you have to watch the whole thing again before you can stop. This still only counts as one of your daily sessions.
If you cum while doing this you are to ruin it and give your pussy a hard smack. You must then immediately start the video again from the beginning and successfully watch it without going over.
If you don’t even have the self control to ruin it then you are to do an extra edge, and you will continue to do extra edges until you do three successful ones without going over (cumulative, they don’t have to be a row).
As you watch it you’re to repeat this mantra regularly, either in your head or out loud if you can (hearing yourself say it is amazingly powerful).
I’m a little cum slut, horny and wet.
Cum on my face and cum on my chest.
Use me for your pleasure, dripping and dumb.
I’ll keep edging and never cum.
Yes, it works to the tune of ‘I’m a little teapot’, clever girl. That’ll help you remember it.
IF YOU ARE HATING THIS for goodness sake stop, it’s supposed to be fun. Okay? See if you can find another 'compilation' video on a different topic that works for you. That's totally okay.
The second edge of doing this, if you’re able to, you can either continue the mantra (that’s really stretching the definition isn’t it) or you can repeat what the audio is saying and act like a good little slut and learn, what porn stars at least, say to turn guys on.
If you have a dildo fuck your mouth with it sometimes, copying the girls in the wall. If it’s suction cup you can jerk it too. It is NOT allowed in you, Your face is for it, your cunt just gets fingers.
The final edge you are to be naked and if you can, get a bottle of lotion and squirt it sometimes on your neck and chest and (careful to not get it in your eyes) on your face even. LEAVE IT there until the video ends each time, and then rub it in. Use the mantra or their words as you want to.
Get your notes and compare how you feel about those things after the training. Has it made a difference? What’s the score now? Have you felt some kind of ‘mind control’ effect?
Then if you haven’t already write to me and tell me what it’s been like, I’d love to know. Plus, like this and want more mindfucks? I won’t know unless you tell me.
If you want to feel free to do this with a different compilation, anal or ruined orgasms or anything you fancy, but facials seemed like a good one to start with.
Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to become an undercover edging agent today!
With the growing popularity of edging I thought we could have a bit of fun.
I want you to get some stickers, or post it notes, or just bits of paper could do. We're going to put a cryptic link to my website that will lead people to my books, the Tumblr or here!
On those, you’re to write one or more of the following:
‘Have you tried edging.space?
edging.space - everybody’s doing it
don’t miss out - edging.space
have you edged today? - edging.space
edging.space - don’t talk about it, just do it
or just 'edging.space’ might work
or your own version/language, whatever you fancy. I’d love to see what you come up with.
Then, I want you to put that note somewhere! It could be a noticeboard, stuck to a wall or a door or a fridge or in a book or wherever! I’m intrigued to see what you come up with. Maybe if you’re a graffiti artist you’ll tag it on a wall somewhere, how cool would that be!
So do one, do lots, up to you. It’d be super cool if you sent a picture of somewhere you placed it!
If you’re putting it somewhere public, can I ask you stick a 'NSFW’ on it somewhere - if they don’t know what that means I think they’re also unlikely to even figure out it’s a web address. Also, let’s obviously not put these somewhere kids would read it please.
And I'd LOVE you to take a photo and send it to me at [email protected]or send it to my Tumblr.
We're about to hit 80,000 followers on my Tumblr blog which is just amazing. Let's keep spreading the good news!
So that’s it, my secret edgers, spread the word, secretly!
For many some kind of erotic hypno tracks are an essential part of their edging experience
Hypnosis is a tricky area, one I’m not an expert in. With ALL these you need to ideally listen through and make sure you’re okay with the content in it before you get yourself in a more open mood, edging as you listen.
Ideally you want to listen to it while watching something else, which is easy enough on a computer but sometimes harder on a phone.
I made this ‘gooninator’ as something you could watch too, it picks random gifs from Tumblr blogs. I just put a few in that had hypno and spiral content, you can see the list on the left. You can add your own to suit your own tastes - sadly it only works with unrestricted blogs, so porn isn’t that easy to find and see through it.
Alternatively you could just work through your favourite tumblrs and porn, but here’s what I recommend for your weekend’s task.
Here’s some suggested sessions using the Edge Puppet audio above, but you could use it with Cals Curse or any other hypno you find yourself drawn to.
This is an introductory session where you’re going to listen to the audio, get comfortable with it, and do some gentle edging. It’ll take about an hour. You are only allowed to stimulate with your fingers when told to, no toys, no humping, and for now, JUST audio, no visuals.
Get yourself relaxed and comfortable, wearing loose clothing, somewhere you have some privacy and hopefully won’t be disturbed. Get the file playing on your phone, it is ESSENTIAL use listen to it using headphones, not through speakers. That’s how it has it’s full effect.
Listen through the audio once - you are NOT allowed to touch during the 21 minutes this takes. Just listen, make sure you’re happy with all the content, don’t let yourself get too caught up with it, yet.
Assuming that’s the case, and now you know what you’re letting yourself in for - strip down to just your panties. Kneel, on the bed or floor. Turn the audio up a little, and begin to touch yourself. But not where you want to most. Play with your nipples, breasts, stroke your skin, spread your legs, but absolutely no touching between your legs - clit, pussy and bottom are all out of bounds. Keep your eyes shut or watch yourself in the mirror.
For the third time listening through you get to touch yourself, play with your clit, pussy and asshole as you wish BUT just SOFT edges, that means gentle playing, never getting close enough to orgasm that you could cum, on purpose, or by accident.
At this point you may want to take a break, get some water, use the loo, just check you’re happy with how it’s all going. Maybe add a note to this post saying how you’ve found it so far. Ready? Time to add visuals.
This time we’re going to add some visual stimulus. I’ve created the Gooninator above with a selection of gifs that I think could be good (although they are random from those blogs so some of them might be a bit out of context). YOU CAN CUSTOMISE THIS by removing the tumblrs in the bottom left corner, or typing in your favourites and adding them to the mix! Or use the videos or VR as suggested. Again, fingers only, no toys, no humping.
Put on the Gooninator, or other videos, either on a computer screen or your phone. Have it close to your face so it fills your vision as best as possible. On a computer sit near it, on a phone, lie back and hold it close.
Again, first time listening to the file you ONLY get to watch and listen. No touching at all.
Second time listening you are to be NAKED and if you are, you may touch, but just soft edges again as before.
Third time listening, for the first time, you can edge properly. I want you playing with your clit, nipples, pussy and ideally masturbating your bottom too. Let the words become your words. Start to say them yourself now you’re getting to know it better.
Now, you’re on full edging mode. Listening, watching, add some different tumblrs to the gooninator if you wish. Put the audio on a LOOP, and see how long you can last. Two rules - if you get so close you have to stop rubbing, you are NOT allowed to rub for the rest of that loop. 2 - if you accidentally go over you are to pull your hand away, let the orgasm ruin, and then flick your nipples and clit hard three times each before you begin rubbing again. But good girls don’t cum without permission so I’m sure you won’t, will you. Good girl
That’s probably enough for the day, so no touching when you aren’t listening to the audio. That’s the general rule for this task. However, if you feel like it then I suggest you put the audio on loop as you get into bed and listen to it while you go to sleep. You can do soft edges in bed, but don’t get carried away.
Depending how much time you have over the next couple of days then I want you listening to the audio and edging as much as you can.
If you want a change on the audio then try some of those other options I listed at the top of the task but I recommend the Edge Puppet audio is the main one for this task.
The rest of the weekend
I want your goal each day to be at least three edging sessions listening to the audio, watching the gooninator or porn and NOT cumming, If you keep going over try switching to Cals Curse and see if that helps. If you ruin or cum during any of these sessions you have to listen to a whole extra loop while not touching below your waist, and then do an extra edging session without going over to prove you can do it.
Here’s a few extra tasks for you to try and fit in the weekend. From this point on you can use toys, I especially recommend suction cup dildos. For those who like the element of chance, role a dice to see which you have to do!
Pick one sex toy (including DIY ones) to use for each loop you listen to. It is the only thing you’re allowed to use until the next loop. If you want, throw a dice to choose which you can use each time
Edge in front of a mirror for a whole loop, watching yourself
Send a trusted friend the link to this post and tell them you’re doing it, how hot it is, and ask if they want to do it too
Listen to a loop while you edge, either outside your room, or even outside your house, depending on how brave you feel
Edge with your door slightly open, in as exposed position as you dare, from under the covers, to on all fours bare ass up in the air towards the door.
Listen to the recording in public, go shopping, or for a walk or anywhere you can while listening to the audio on a loop - bonus points for secret public edging
If you want things extra intense remember to try a pair of VR googles - the type your phone fits in, then try edging watching the gooninator files (or 3D porn), wearing those, with the audio up nice and high.
There will be another task on top of that tomorrow, and the final 'reward' day on Sunday!
Advent Denial Challenge Day 4 - A little bit of stuffing
So today’s task involves your panties. Knickers, briefs, thong. Whatever you call what you wear.
Pick one of your favourite pairs (in fact, wear your sexiest lingerie today, just under what you usually wear, our secret).
Let's just have a reality check at this point. If you're on your period then pulling them up may work for you, but today and throughout the month just adapt the tasks to whatever works for you and you're comfortable with.
The panties though, need to be pulled up hard between your legs, and left like that. Right into your clit and all the way up to your ass. That feeling you’d normally take as a trigger to reach in and pull out the wedgie, well today we’re doing it on purpose!
The idea is to keep you thinking about your pussy as you go about your business. But that’s only the start. If for some reason it gets a bit boring, try the reverse, pull your panties DOWN around your thighs (held in by your pants). You will be surprised how affecting this is. You feel naked, you want to pull them up, but you can’t, because you’re a good girl, and you’ve been told to.
Finally, in the evening, take the panties off, and as part of your edge (or earlier in the day if you know you like this), slowly push them into your pussy. Take your time, and just see if you like the stretching feeling. It will obviously depend on what type of panties they are, thongs will be easier than boyshorts! Just push in what you can. Some find they love this, others don’t, and that’s okay. See the source video here
Edge with them in as much as you can, and then when you’re right on the edge, pull them out.
If you’re a really twisted little monkey you can edge again, with the damp panties in your mouth like a gag. Yummy.
Getting some great feedback every day, so use the form below if you want to feel accountable and let me know how you're getting on.
Hopefully from tomorrow I'll have a chance to get ahead of myself and post these each morning instead of later in the day for some of you! Thanks for your patience and have a great day.
Hi everyone, welcome to all those who've signed up, it's lovely to have you join! A special thank you to all those who actually choose a donation tier, that's very sweet of you! You won't actually get billed until the 1st of Jan so do feel free to check it out, switch around tiers and see which one is best for you. Okay, so I hope you've got on well. Please do feedback to me on here or via the feedback form or just email me at [email protected] if you have any specific questions.
Advent Denial Challenge daily feedback - Some great feedback from there already, thank you! Most of all those sharing how they are tailoring this challenge to fit them, which is just what you're supposed to do. So well done!
So, Day TWO - 'A cum is a ruin and a ruin is a cum'
That's the mantra you're to be saying today, whether you've had scores of ruined orgasms or never had one at all, today, if you've completed your set number of edges, you're to ruin your last orgasm of the day.
Many of you will know what a ruined orgasm is, but for those who don't I've just posted more about it on my Tumblr, but here's the key bits.
It's just as the name suggests, you have an orgasm, but you ruin it. You ruin it simply by stopping all stimulation just as you climax. Just as you pass the point of no return. This is the usual way to do it, with a vibe on your clit that you pull off just as you cum:
This is my favourite way though, to bring yourself to orgasm with clitoral and penetration, or just penetration, and pull the toy out just as you go over. It leaves a sense of emptiness and your pussy clenching on nothing that the above method doesn't do so much.
It can still feel good, but usually, it doesn’t. When you’re cumming is when you want to rub most of all, and you’re stopping that. You’re ‘ruining’ what would have felt amazing.
This does a few things, and this REALLY varies from person to person, especially among women. But the first thing it does is take away the pleasure when you expect it the most. It’s incredibly frustrating and a huge mind fuck and will have you squirming and crying and desperate to put your hand back and make it feel good.
If you’re a submissive, or a masochist, this can be really powerful. You’re giving up pleasure you could have, and that can be deeply satisfying (once you’ve got over being super pissed off).
The other major benefit is that many find that because you didn’t finish the orgasm your body hasn’t produced all the calming, feel good, snuggle up hormones that it usually would. So again, once you get past the frustration, for many this is about 10-20 minutes, your arousal comes back, HARD. Add to this the psychological effect of knowing you gave up the pleasure you crave just minutes ago, and it can just take you to another level of horniness.
For those with penises there’s the fact it empties your balls to take into account. Blue balls IS a thing with edging (but never let anyone use it as a reason for you to pleasure them) and a ruin will fix that but keep you relatively horny. (Even better is milking but that’s another story).
For women especially though, the effects tend to vary, and sometimes it’s where you’re with on your menstrual cycle. A ruin can really mess with you emotionally. So definitely explore them, but just be very self aware and see if, after the initial 20 minutes of ‘what the fuck did I just do...’ you actually get that horny boost and feel proud and sexy again. As if it puts you in a funk it’s not worth it. But it IS worth trying at different times to see if that’s always the case.
So back to that evil mantra - 'A cum is a ruin and a ruin is a cum.' That's how I want you thinking this month. If you go over by accident this Advent, this is what you are to do. Ruin it. It's fucked up, but many women find, over time, they start to crave them as much as full orgasms. Let's see what happens to you.
Advent Feedback Form - So if you're using the anonymous form to keep accountable then today I want you to get to the bit that asks you for extra feedback. Edge during the rest of the questions, and then ruin, and tell me just how it makes you feel. I look forward to reading them.
Welcome to the new and improved Advent Denial Challenge from James Hardcourt.
As you may have read on my Tumblr, the site I've used to host the Advent Challenge content the last few years must have finally had a look at what I was posting and realised it was just too hot for them. Thank goodness we have SubscribeStar, who are super positive about adult content. I'm posting all these to the free tier so you can read them, but there will be extra content for those in the Fan Club through the month.
The idea of this challenge is not to have a full orgasm until Christmas, and have some fun tasks to spice things up along the way.
It is, of course, completely optional, but it's one of the favourites from my Tumblr blog.
So, Day One - Today's about making a commitment. Most of all to yourself, but secondly you can be accountable to me if you want. You can make a comment on here, or use the feedback form at the bottom to type out the promise below. This is going out late in the day in some timezones so you only have to manage one edge to kick things off.
Our objective with this challenge is to have FUN and for you to discover more about yourself and what your amazing body is capable of. It's not a high pressure task unless you want it to be.
So I’m going to leave it to you to decide how seriously you take it. You might be a very experienced ‘denial slut’ or completely new to it. All are welcome!
You will determine exactly what you decide your rules are. The default rules are as follows:
You are not allowed to cum without permission until the challenge is complete
You are to edge at least three times every day unless told otherwise
If you go over the edge of climax accidentally you are to ruin the orgasm
You are to record your progress using my feedback form, or the Advent Denial Challenge Wall Chart (which you can download from here as a PDF and in different versions) or make your own.
(Ruin the orgasm involves stopping all stimulation once it begins. More on that tomorrow...)
That’s it, on top of which there will be little tasks and twists posted each day, and sometimes they’ll lead to rewards!
This year I'm breaking it down into weekly chunks with the help of a chart I've created. Week by Week Rewards
As you’ll see, each 7th day will be a reward day, where if you’ve managed all your edges and the goals you might have set yourself, you’ll be on the NICE list. But if you’ve not managed to meet your target (you set that, e.g it could be a cross in every box or it might just be you manage not to cum all week) then you’ll be on the naughty list and get a punishment.
There are three different versions of the chart attached to this post. One with three edges and three blanks to add in your own goals (eating, exercise, work, study, anything!). You put a big fat X through every one you manage. It's very motivating. There's a second version with all blanks for the tasks. And a third that is all blanks but also unbranded so you could print it out and post it up if you were worried if someone was going to ask about what edging was... Only you know what it's all about!
Your Denial, Your Way However, as I said, those are the default rules, that you can’t cum without permission and if you do by accident, you can ruin it. If you’re new to this I suggest that you just have fun trying the tasks, don’t feel too much pressure not to cum, if you really need to, go for it, it’s okay, it really is.
If you’re an experienced denial slut however, I’d suggest more hardcore rules, that you have to edge at least four times a day, and that ANY orgasm granted before Day 24 must be ruined. Or even, you don’t take them at all. Whatever works for you.
Have fun, give me feedback, and we'll make this something new and even better than before!
Anyway, let’s get this party started!
To kick off, make a promise, I want you to take some time to masturbate, and when you’re close and feeling excited say it aloud:
‘I’m joining the Advent denial challenge with my fellow denial sluts.’ ‘I will not cum without permission’ ‘So help me, James’
Now edge yourself nice and hard, no cumming. Let’s do this!
Happy Advent, my lovely denial sluts! Best of luck! James
Exclusive to those of you who've signed up on SubscribeStar (thank you for that!) you get access to a personal feedback chat form each day! I'll be checking them so I hope it will help you feel motivated You can access it here: Advent Denial Challenge daily feedback