You are very likely here because you're a fan of my Tumblr - female-orgasm-denial.tumblr.com
Somehow a blog that I started up for a bit of fun, in a niche I had no idea many would have been interested in, turned into a Google topping, million-plus visitor monster. A monster that Tumblr have tried to kill a few times but that's a whole other story.
This... SubStar… Let’s shorten it to that ( I mean 'sub' is always good). This SubStar is to support the writing and publishing of short stories, novellas, guides, audiobooks, and who knows what else, all around that theme close to our heart: tease, edging and orgasm denial.
I wrestled with the idea of setting this up at all, because I do feel a little odd charging money for what I have been doing for free on Tumblr and BDSMLR (and will continue to do), but two things swayed me.
Firstly, because when I asked, a whole bunch of you said you’d be interested in doing this (thank you so much for that vote of confidence).
And secondly, because I believe what I'm doing here is something genuinely new. This is about published books, getting orgasm denial focused erotica into the mainstream. Good writing, to be sold on Amazon, or Smashwords, or if it's really kinky, just accessible to you, my horny little SubStars.
And it's not just a pipedream. I've actually gone and done it. I'm on the verge of launching my first FOUR BOOKS. Yeah, read that and weep GRR Martin. I actually finished the bulk of three of them about ten months ago, but you know what I learnt?
There's a WHOLE world of difference between writing a book and publishing one!
The last year has been such a journey. The writing part was actually pretty easy. Learning how to turn that into something good, something pant-wettingly hot, and publishable is the real challenge; to create the right covers for it, format it, market it, publicise, distribute, get it onto Amazon. It's been a learning curve.
This is just the start of that journey, and your chance to travel it with me. I'm excited about the potential for this. Amazingly, so is my wife, who inspired and encouraged me to get off my arse and actually do this. So I'm very keen to turn it into a success.
Whether it's just wanting to support me a little, and get early and sometimes exclusive access to my short stories, or you're a budding writer too and want to team up with me to get access to all I'm learning and doing while making the transition from writer to author, then this is for you.
My goal is to share this amazing journey with you and get your precious input and encouragement as I strive to make the hottest stories I possibly can.
Fan Club Tier
I’ve drafted out what I felt was three good tiers. As you can see above (and in the video) the Fan Club tier is for those of you who just want to show a bit of support and get early access to my regular short stories and also captions and edging instructions and similar. The fact that SubscribeStar.adult is a genuinely pro-NSFW platform also means, if you want me to, I can venture out into some edgier denial stories - what I’m calling my ‘Hard Edge’ series. I’m really going to be led by subscribers on that - but dubcon, consensual non-con, some depraved medical stuff, and who knows what else is the kind of thing that I could try out there. Maybe some fucked up misogynistic stuff that is just so wrong, or I know breast size teasing has been a favourite the few times I featured it on the blog. We’re all adults here and understand that fantasies, and what turns us on, are not what we want, or even hot in reality. Some of those things may not be for you, and that’s okay. Everything will be very clearly tagged. But I want to make this a safe place for all kinds of denial fantasies to be explored, led by you.
Book Club Tier
The Book Club tier is where you start getting more influence. I’ll be putting votes out for what books you want to be prioritised, maybe give options as stories develop to let you decide which way they go. Yes, I’m basically your bitch. A little bit of switching’s good for the soul. More importantly, you’ll have access to my full books as I write them. You’re free to just get off to them but like any book club, your feedback would be awesome. You'll also get proper ebooks of Advanced Reader Copies, delivered via the Bookfunnel service.
What you won’t be getting is copies of my back catalogue. This is because when I put my books up onto Amazon the contract with them is they aren’t available anywhere else. They are pretty merciless at removing accounts who mess around on this, so I won't be. I’ve had quite enough of that with Tumblr.
The point is, for advance reader copies, grab ‘em while they’re hot. They’ll only be there until it’s published on Amazon. So the ‘Advanced’ part is very literal.
Finally, if you’re formative in an idea for a book you’ll get acknowledged in it, and I thought it might be cute to offer the chance for some to get featured as characters. Your name, or a name you pick, and your general description. Imagine thousands of others getting off imaging all those wicked things being done to you. Hot right?
Writers’ Club Tier (TBA)
Thirdly, there will be the Writers’ Club tier. I’ve been on quite the journey learning the publishing side of writing over the last 12 months. I’d love to share what I’ve learnt and the resources I’ve built up with other aspiring erotica authors. And I’m serious about the author part. This is for people who are wanting to publish and sell their erotica. It’s not just for people wanting cosy feedback on their little stories.
You get access to an exclusive Discord where I and other authors will be sharing our experiences, struggles, tactics and confidential ideas. I’ve got others helping me with editing and design who’ll also be part of it. If you don’t know if this is for you, please message me first and we can chat it through. Right now this isn't activated - I want to focus on content for the first two tiers, but once it is live places will be limited for obvious reasons.
As you can see, I’ve made as many of the initial posts public so you can have an idea of the kind of content I’ll be producing. But that is also very much up for discussion. Whatever tier you’re in I’d love to hear what kind of content you would like to see here.
This is early days, so if you have ideas for tiers, or content within them, message me here or email [email protected]
For the first time I'm taking some of my books out of Kindle Unlimited so that I can publish them 'wide'. This means sites like Apple Books, Google Play Books, Kobo, Nook etc.
I'd love your help knowing where I should focus my efforts.
Amazon has been a great place to start my publishing journey. It's the biggest bookstore in the world after all. But I don't like monopolies or what they've meant for local bookshops, so as much as possible I want to make my books available on a wider basis. I also regularly get messages asking if there's ways to get them outside of Amazon and until now the only option has been this SubscribeStar (which has over 400 followers now!)
Taking my books out of Kindle Unlimited means I can start the process of adding them to online bookstores (it's called 'going wide') such as Apple Books, Nook, Google Play Books, Kobo, Barnes and Noble and more. In fact you might even be able to order them from your local library!
Where do you like to buy your ebooks? I'd love to know so I can try to make sure it's included in future distribution options.
What's your preferred place to buy ebooks? (you can click more than one)
Tease for Two is free on Amazon just for today (26/03)
Amazon occasionally let me giveaway my books and for those of you who aren't Book Club tier (because they get them all anyway...) you can get hold of book 2 in my Kink by the Numbers series for free on Amazon, but only until midnight tonight (PDT) Get Tease for Two free at Amazon As always it'd be a great help if you left a review, or even just give me some feedback on the book here. I hope this is useful to someone. James
I designed this infographic to help people describe their level of arousal and so communicate more clearly around edging and denial. It's also attached to this post as a PDF.
Ways to use this:
Work through the different levels as you edge and recognise the different mental and physical impacts you have - become more aware of your responses. Are they similar to the list or do some differ?
Set yourself the target of reaching a certain level and staying there, how can you vary what you do and think to keep you at a certain level.
Work on keeping yourself in 'The Edging Zone' - think about how breathing and creating pressure in your body can help you get there, but relaxing your mind and body help you not go beyond
Try soft edging where you can only stimulate yourself to level 5-8 at most, and never allow yourself to get to the point where you could orgasm. What effect does this have on you compared to a 'hard' edge at 9. If you only have soft edges for a day or two, does the cumulative impact on your arousal still remain high?
I'd love your feedback on using this, and any ways I could improve it. Message me here or on Tumblr.
Okay, first, I don't like the title - alternative ideas are welcomed! But it'll do for now. As discussed in my last post this is my first go at being very focused on erotic fantasy and NOT letting myself go down a romantic or educational angle. It's what my Tumblr blog has been famous for before the ban, only much longer and more detailed stories. This is one specific niche, that of breast size teasing, which seems to have a big overlap with edging and denial, but I'd plan to target lots of different kinks if these prove popular. It's also very much a medical fantasy, which is a far more widespread kink. Let me know what you think about these early drafts of early chapters. (These are raw, unedited and unproofed.) I've attached it as a PDF and as an epub ebook.
Do let me know your thoughts - in comments here, in messages or just email me at [email protected]
Something a little different - Pure Fantasy series
I've got three more books on the go in my growing 'Educational Erotica' library but those have all ended up being surprisingly romantic, and I wanted to have a go at something that was pure erotica. The idea with these will be exploring specific kinks that fall within the boundaries of denial and edging. Romance is not going to feature, just hot, mindfucking fantasy. The plan is that they just go full pelt into exploring specific kinks - and I'd love to know what you think of my choice for the first one. It's the fetish for breast size teasing. It is always one of the most popular when I talk about it on my main blog (although I recognise, with as with any of these kinks, it won't be for everyone). Specifically the idea here of being denied because of it. It was inspired a recent post I made to Tumblr:
All breasts are beautiful. But for some of you it’s very hot to have a ‘reason’ why others should cum, but you aren’t allowed. It just adds a whole new level of mindfuck to it.
This might be things like your age, or your gender, or if you’re a virgin, or your height. Honestly the more unfair and unreasonable it is the hotter. But for many, breast size is the go to. It can be they’re too big, ‘orgasms aren’t for girls like you, you’ve been blessed with those breasts, that’s more than enough’.
But for most, it’s that they’re ‘too small’ ‘Small breast humiliation’ - the female equivalent of the very common ‘SPH’ fetish (you can figure that out…).
So, here’s what someone might say knowing you’re turned on by ‘SBH’.
‘Aww, are you staring again? I don’t blame you. Don’t you wish you’d fill a bra like this? God, fill ANY bra, right? But you can stare, I like it, as long as you remember what you can’t do. And what’s that? Oh look how red you’ve got. Say it with me, “Flatties don’t cum”. That’s it. Say it again… very good.
‘Lift up your top. God, are you sure you’re not a guy? We can’t even call those tits, can we? Just little mosquito bites. No wonder you stare at mine all day.
‘Anyway, put them away, he’s due any time. Who? That guy you fancy. What was his name? I don’t remember. I thought I’d be nice and invite him over. No silly, not for you. Look at these, he won’t even see you’re in the room. But I thought you’d like to edge while I make out with him. Just remember, no cumming. Why?
‘That’s it. good girl.’
If that doesn’t do anything for you, that’s totally cool. But if it does, well maybe you’ve just discovered a new kink, congratulations! I do ponder stuff like this, wondering what’s going on in our heads to make them a turn on. I think it goes back to that initial idea of being helpless. There’s just nothing you can do about it, and maybe it’s that helplessness, or the unfairness that’s arousing, or perhaps fetishising it is a coping mechanism. Either way, explore it, embrace it, but don’t get too hung up on it, it’s just another turn on and truly, your breasts are beautiful, big or small or barely there at all. So keep it fun and keep it positive. And if you want more, well I’ve put a brief hint of this into my next book with Natalie, ‘On All Fours’ so you can look forward to that.
That post got me thinking about what kind of story could work to really make the most of this kink, and the thought of combining it with some kind of forced edging and breast suction scenario was what immediately came to mind. You know, this kind of thing... The idea that's emerging is a story where a woman WANTS bigger breasts, but is going to have to be edged a lot, and give up her orgasms to get them.
I'm a few chapters in now and it's good, I think. My editor, who happens to have this kink, told me that trying to read them made her feel more like a guinea pig than an editor - I think that's successful? The emerging story hit her so hard she struggled to give sensible feedback at first. I loved that.
So what do you think my dear followers, is this a hot kink to turn into a 'pure fantasy' story?
What other kinks do you think I should tackle?
If you're a paying subscriber I'll be posting the first few chapters here to get your feedback later today.
In my latest book, Kinky Friends with Benefits, Amy has a big dildo. She of course, as any rational lass, has given it a name. In my draft I've called it 'Wilbur' but I reckon you lot can come up with a better name.
Add them in comments here or message me on Tumblr @jameshardcourt with your suggestions, and whoever I pick gets the name featured in the book and if you're not already a book club member (who get it anyway) your own free copy! Suggestions by Sunday please! James
PS For Book Club members I'd been waiting on the final cover to upload it for you but my designer's still working on it, so I'm going to put up a version for you today without that and will update it on the links in that post with the final published version later. I can't wait for your feedback, this book is insanely hot (I think!).
Happy Christmas!!!! (And happy Brexit Deal for those of us who care, phew they cut THAT close...)
Congratulations on getting to the end, or just trying some of this out of curiosity. Both are good. But obviously if you’ve actually done some, or hopefully all of the Advent Denial challenge then I’m very proud of you. I hope you’ve enjoyed the journey.
If you’ve managed to do it all, the whole 24 days without cumming, then let me encourage you to celebrate it. Unless there’s a reason you aren’t allowed, have your orgasm today. Don’t deny yourself for longer, just enjoy it. If you decide you want to go longer, that’s great, but I’d encourage you to just go for it today. If you want to include fate in the decision then get a coin, flip it and if it’s heads you can cum. If it’s tails, you’re denied till January 1st. Of course edge yourself senseless before you flip it…
And if you fancy something a bit more risky, how about you may only cum at the moment you’re being called to go and eat Christmas dinner. Everyone should be waiting for you when you finally come down, red and flushed and obviously post orgasmic.
Remember the first orgasm after a longish denial can be, odd, in lots of ways, weak or ruiney, although it can be amazing too. But I normally suggest you don’t just limit yourself to cumming once. Enjoy the evening, and maybe the next few days, cumming as much as you want. It’s Christmas after all!
Cumming IS good. Just not cumming is better.
And don’t worry, you’ll be craving to be denied again before long.
Even if you haven’t filled out a journal on Tumblr, I’d love to hear how the whole experience was for you. So I do encourage you to send me a message or ask letting me know what you learnt and how it went!
Congratulations, you’ve made it to the finale of the advent denial challenge. (Or you’ve just skipped ahead to see how it finishes but that’s cool too.)
Many advent calendars only have 24 days (that used to annoy me as a kid) but we're going all the way to 25, and I’ll have special instructions for you for the big day itself.
But today, your last day of denial - I want you to edge as many times as you can. Aim for seven at least. But here’s the twist, each edge has to be twice as long as the last one. (Remember I count an edge as the whole masturbating without cumming - you don’t have to be ‘on the edge’ of orgasm the whole time).
Just think about that for a moment. Do the maths. If your first edge of the day is just ONE minute, then your seventh edge will be 64 minutes!
That’s right, you can only touch in annoyingly teasing amounts to start, but end up with really long ones, and if you do too many, you simply won’t have time to finish them.
I’d also hugely appreciate you writing into the blog with how the denial experience has been, even if you’ve not journaled at all so far.
See you tomorrow for the big one! (If you’re lucky…)
So this is it, you’ve nearly done it! Whether you’ve just been participating a bit, using some of the ideas to enhance your edging, or gone with it all, well done on trying the Advent Denial Challenge.
Of course for those of you who have managed to edge all the way through must go a special commendation. Whether it’s your first time trying this or you’re an old (and damp) hand at denial, you’ve done spectacularly and I’m very proud of you.
Last week I suggested you get hold of a remote controlled vibe. Today’s the day you’re going to use it. You’re going to wear it, all day. Depending on the vibe either inside you against your g-spot, or against your clit, or wherever works.
Your task is to do FIVE edges today, the normal two at the start and end of the day, and then three involving the remote controlled vibrator. Yes it might need some charging in between.
And they’re to be done in a variety of places. Other areas of the house or at work - obviously keep it discrete but keep it exciting too.
Between the edges tease yourself with it and keep it on low for extended periods.
If you haven’t got a remote vibe you can use a toy, or even panties in you. Just something to make you feel sexy and naughty all day. Consider a butt plug in your pussy, they are often easier to wear for extended periods than a longer dildo.
Advent Denial Challenge Day 22
Help me with Tales from the Edge
There are two tasks today - the first is just go over all the posts from the denial challenge, and pick any that’s been your favourite (except for ruins) and do it again! If you have several you pick, choose one randomly and do that.
But the second, optional one, is to be one of the first to try out my ‘tales from the edge’ questionnaire. It’s where I’ve built a form to quiz you about your deepest fantasies and to share them with me, and potentially others.
Giving me feedback Lots of you have been giving me little bits of feedback each day on the accountability form, but this one is for everyone who’s been involved and tried some of the denial tasks this advent.
I’d love to hear how it’s been for you, what’s been your favourite bits, which tasks have worked best, and how I could improve it in future.
So your job is to edge and then click the link below (it’ll be updated on Wednesday) and continue to give me feedback as you edge!
Get some fresh air, and have an edge Today's challenge is a bit of a classic but the idea is that hopefully by now you'll be horny enough to try it if you haven't been brave enough before. It's simply to have an edge, or three, away from home. I know that will be trickier for some, and if needs be you could just do something on a balcony...
Or it might work for you to edge up against an open window - you can vary the intensity of it by doing it in the dark, as long as it gives you a thrill, that's great.
Maybe you could it in a secluded spot in a garden
Just don't get too worn out:
Or you could drive somewhere and do it in your car.
One of my favourite places to set this as a task is a changing room in a store. Try on some sexy outfits to get in the mood and then edge in the seclusion of the changing room (check your location doesn't allow changing room cameras, most places don't)
You might find yourself wanting to be even more daring:
It's obviously easier if you've got a remote controlled vibe like the Lovense Lush 2 or the new one by them, the Ferri - both are BRILLIANT and a lot of fun to use by yourself or with someone else controlling it.
If you're just using fingers or a normal vibe then obviously a skirt or dress without underwear makes it much easier.
But you can even get yourself worked up and home and just find something to hump and have some fun with that...
Heads up - next week one of the tasks is to use a remote controlled vibe outdoors. If you don’t have one then here’s the perfect excuse to get yourself that special gift.
I’ve tried lots and the uncontested winner is the Lush 2 from Lovense. It’s got the best app, the best connectivity and is quiet and powerful. You can get cheaper ones that have a physical remote but this gives you far more options.
Do NOT be tempted to buy the older Lush v1, Lush 2 is much, much better.
They also have a really interesting new toy that secures into your panties - The Ferri, which is just for clitoral stimulation (the Lush is designed to go in you but can also be pressed against the clit).
Checking out the impact… While a lot of the benefits of edging are internal: being horny, sexual self discovery, better self image, being horny etc - there’s a point where those things overspill into your exterior life too, if you let them, and watch for it.
So that’s today’s task, and really something to be aware of from this point on.
Today your task is to let the benefits of edging affect other people.
So start the day off with a good hard edge, give yourself a little extra time to get ready, enjoy a hot shower, use those things we’ve been exploring, wearing nice underwear, dressing up just a little more than usual, use that denial high I hope you’re experiencing just to feel good about your day and all you’re going to do.
But then on top of that, I want you to slide your fingers into your wet pussy, and apply your scent to your neck and wrists, like perfume. No one is going to noticeably smell this, it’s more about your mindset and possibly, just possibly pheromones.
If possible do a quick top up edge before you go out, and then your task is to be extra aware of how others, especially men, act around you.
I’m suggesting this because time and again, this is the feedback I get. That denial sluts start to notice they get more attention from guys. Some who had close guy friends reported back they were joking they were getting erections around them and they didn’t know why.
I don’t know if it’s because of how you act or some kind of chemical thing or both, but have some fun being an Edge Researcher for the day and report back what you find.
Oh and if you want some more exciting ‘Field Research’ then feel free to top up your 'perfume’ while out at a cafe or store or public bathroom stall. We need all the variables covered!
Fancy a bit of a mind fuck?
The facial cumshot’s become such a standard trope in porn that it got to the point where actually cumming in a woman, now labelled, a cream pie, actually became innovative. This is of course, because with a facial you get to see the male stud show his prowess in all his ejaculatory glory.
Real people don’t do it much in real life, it’s just a porn thing.
Honestly it’s pretty demeaning and humiliating to just have a guy empty his load right on your face. Right?
Which is why it’s perfect for this advent denial mind fuck denial training exercise!
You may like the idea of facials already, in which case this will be easier. But it’ll actually be even more interesting if you don’t, and I encourage you to try it. If you’re lesbian this is an even bigger mindfuck! Plus it’s great sissy training.
Before you start, write a note to yourself about how you feel about facials, semen, being treated like this. Rate out of ten how much you like the idea. If you want to tell me you’re trying it then feel free to send me a message, it might help you stick to it.
Now your training begins.
You are to watch the following video at least three times a day on full screen as you masturbate and edge. (Don’t click these till you’ve read all the instructions).
It’s a 12 minute ‘wall’ of cumshot compilations. You’re to masturbate and edge as you watch and listen to it, imagining you are one of those girls. Focus on different ones as it goes, rub your clit, play with your pussy and ass and pull on your breasts as you dream about being there, on your knees, the warm thick semen splattering over your face and body, encouraging him to cum while you’re denied.
It’ll be best with earphones if you’re sure you won’t be interrupted. If you can kneel then that’s great, but it’s absolutely fine if you can’t. If you start kneeling you have to stay kneeling throughout. If you need to move, restart the video.
You may ONLY masturbate while watching this video. You can only edge, you are not allowed to cum. At least three times, but more if you can. If you can’t watch you can always listen.
Unless something intervenes you have to watch the entire video each time and keep playing and edging until it’s finished.
When the video finishes YOU STOP. You may watch other porn (try some other compilations!) or read tumblr, but you cannot touch unless you are watching this video on full screen. If you start it again you have to watch the whole thing again before you can stop. This still only counts as one of your daily sessions.
If you cum while doing this you are to ruin it and give your pussy a hard smack. You must then immediately start the video again from the beginning and successfully watch it without going over.
If you don’t even have the self control to ruin it then you are to do an extra edge, and you will continue to do extra edges until you do three successful ones without going over (cumulative, they don’t have to be a row).
As you watch it you’re to repeat this mantra regularly, either in your head or out loud if you can (hearing yourself say it is amazingly powerful).
I’m a little cum slut, horny and wet.
Cum on my face and cum on my chest.
Use me for your pleasure, dripping and dumb.
I’ll keep edging and never cum.
Yes, it works to the tune of ‘I’m a little teapot’, clever girl. That’ll help you remember it.
IF YOU ARE HATING THIS for goodness sake stop, it’s supposed to be fun. Okay? See if you can find another 'compilation' video on a different topic that works for you. That's totally okay.
The second edge of doing this, if you’re able to, you can either continue the mantra (that’s really stretching the definition isn’t it) or you can repeat what the audio is saying and act like a good little slut and learn, what porn stars at least, say to turn guys on.
If you have a dildo fuck your mouth with it sometimes, copying the girls in the wall. If it’s suction cup you can jerk it too. It is NOT allowed in you, Your face is for it, your cunt just gets fingers.
The final edge you are to be naked and if you can, get a bottle of lotion and squirt it sometimes on your neck and chest and (careful to not get it in your eyes) on your face even. LEAVE IT there until the video ends each time, and then rub it in. Use the mantra or their words as you want to.
Get your notes and compare how you feel about those things after the training. Has it made a difference? What’s the score now? Have you felt some kind of ‘mind control’ effect?
Then if you haven’t already write to me and tell me what it’s been like, I’d love to know. Plus, like this and want more mindfucks? I won’t know unless you tell me.
If you want to feel free to do this with a different compilation, anal or ruined orgasms or anything you fancy, but facials seemed like a good one to start with.
Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to become an undercover edging agent today!
With the growing popularity of edging I thought we could have a bit of fun.
I want you to get some stickers, or post it notes, or just bits of paper could do. We're going to put a cryptic link to my website that will lead people to my books, the Tumblr or here!
On those, you’re to write one or more of the following:
‘Have you tried edging.space?
edging.space - everybody’s doing it
don’t miss out - edging.space
have you edged today? - edging.space
edging.space - don’t talk about it, just do it
or just 'edging.space’ might work
or your own version/language, whatever you fancy. I’d love to see what you come up with.
Then, I want you to put that note somewhere! It could be a noticeboard, stuck to a wall or a door or a fridge or in a book or wherever! I’m intrigued to see what you come up with. Maybe if you’re a graffiti artist you’ll tag it on a wall somewhere, how cool would that be!
So do one, do lots, up to you. It’d be super cool if you sent a picture of somewhere you placed it!
If you’re putting it somewhere public, can I ask you stick a 'NSFW’ on it somewhere - if they don’t know what that means I think they’re also unlikely to even figure out it’s a web address. Also, let’s obviously not put these somewhere kids would read it please.
And I'd LOVE you to take a photo and send it to me at [email protected]or send it to my Tumblr.
We're about to hit 80,000 followers on my Tumblr blog which is just amazing. Let's keep spreading the good news!
So that’s it, my secret edgers, spread the word, secretly!
For many some kind of erotic hypno tracks are an essential part of their edging experience
Hypnosis is a tricky area, one I’m not an expert in. With ALL these you need to ideally listen through and make sure you’re okay with the content in it before you get yourself in a more open mood, edging as you listen.
Ideally you want to listen to it while watching something else, which is easy enough on a computer but sometimes harder on a phone.
I made this ‘gooninator’ as something you could watch too, it picks random gifs from Tumblr blogs. I just put a few in that had hypno and spiral content, you can see the list on the left. You can add your own to suit your own tastes - sadly it only works with unrestricted blogs, so porn isn’t that easy to find and see through it.
Alternatively you could just work through your favourite tumblrs and porn, but here’s what I recommend for your weekend’s task.
Here’s some suggested sessions using the Edge Puppet audio above, but you could use it with Cals Curse or any other hypno you find yourself drawn to.
This is an introductory session where you’re going to listen to the audio, get comfortable with it, and do some gentle edging. It’ll take about an hour. You are only allowed to stimulate with your fingers when told to, no toys, no humping, and for now, JUST audio, no visuals.
Get yourself relaxed and comfortable, wearing loose clothing, somewhere you have some privacy and hopefully won’t be disturbed. Get the file playing on your phone, it is ESSENTIAL use listen to it using headphones, not through speakers. That’s how it has it’s full effect.
Listen through the audio once - you are NOT allowed to touch during the 21 minutes this takes. Just listen, make sure you’re happy with all the content, don’t let yourself get too caught up with it, yet.
Assuming that’s the case, and now you know what you’re letting yourself in for - strip down to just your panties. Kneel, on the bed or floor. Turn the audio up a little, and begin to touch yourself. But not where you want to most. Play with your nipples, breasts, stroke your skin, spread your legs, but absolutely no touching between your legs - clit, pussy and bottom are all out of bounds. Keep your eyes shut or watch yourself in the mirror.
For the third time listening through you get to touch yourself, play with your clit, pussy and asshole as you wish BUT just SOFT edges, that means gentle playing, never getting close enough to orgasm that you could cum, on purpose, or by accident.
At this point you may want to take a break, get some water, use the loo, just check you’re happy with how it’s all going. Maybe add a note to this post saying how you’ve found it so far. Ready? Time to add visuals.
This time we’re going to add some visual stimulus. I’ve created the Gooninator above with a selection of gifs that I think could be good (although they are random from those blogs so some of them might be a bit out of context). YOU CAN CUSTOMISE THIS by removing the tumblrs in the bottom left corner, or typing in your favourites and adding them to the mix! Or use the videos or VR as suggested. Again, fingers only, no toys, no humping.
Put on the Gooninator, or other videos, either on a computer screen or your phone. Have it close to your face so it fills your vision as best as possible. On a computer sit near it, on a phone, lie back and hold it close.
Again, first time listening to the file you ONLY get to watch and listen. No touching at all.
Second time listening you are to be NAKED and if you are, you may touch, but just soft edges again as before.
Third time listening, for the first time, you can edge properly. I want you playing with your clit, nipples, pussy and ideally masturbating your bottom too. Let the words become your words. Start to say them yourself now you’re getting to know it better.
Now, you’re on full edging mode. Listening, watching, add some different tumblrs to the gooninator if you wish. Put the audio on a LOOP, and see how long you can last. Two rules - if you get so close you have to stop rubbing, you are NOT allowed to rub for the rest of that loop. 2 - if you accidentally go over you are to pull your hand away, let the orgasm ruin, and then flick your nipples and clit hard three times each before you begin rubbing again. But good girls don’t cum without permission so I’m sure you won’t, will you. Good girl
That’s probably enough for the day, so no touching when you aren’t listening to the audio. That’s the general rule for this task. However, if you feel like it then I suggest you put the audio on loop as you get into bed and listen to it while you go to sleep. You can do soft edges in bed, but don’t get carried away.
Depending how much time you have over the next couple of days then I want you listening to the audio and edging as much as you can.
If you want a change on the audio then try some of those other options I listed at the top of the task but I recommend the Edge Puppet audio is the main one for this task.
The rest of the weekend
I want your goal each day to be at least three edging sessions listening to the audio, watching the gooninator or porn and NOT cumming, If you keep going over try switching to Cals Curse and see if that helps. If you ruin or cum during any of these sessions you have to listen to a whole extra loop while not touching below your waist, and then do an extra edging session without going over to prove you can do it.
Here’s a few extra tasks for you to try and fit in the weekend. From this point on you can use toys, I especially recommend suction cup dildos. For those who like the element of chance, role a dice to see which you have to do!
Pick one sex toy (including DIY ones) to use for each loop you listen to. It is the only thing you’re allowed to use until the next loop. If you want, throw a dice to choose which you can use each time
Edge in front of a mirror for a whole loop, watching yourself
Send a trusted friend the link to this post and tell them you’re doing it, how hot it is, and ask if they want to do it too
Listen to a loop while you edge, either outside your room, or even outside your house, depending on how brave you feel
Edge with your door slightly open, in as exposed position as you dare, from under the covers, to on all fours bare ass up in the air towards the door.
Listen to the recording in public, go shopping, or for a walk or anywhere you can while listening to the audio on a loop - bonus points for secret public edging
If you want things extra intense remember to try a pair of VR googles - the type your phone fits in, then try edging watching the gooninator files (or 3D porn), wearing those, with the audio up nice and high.
There will be another task on top of that tomorrow, and the final 'reward' day on Sunday!
Advent Denial Challenge Days 12 and 13 (reward day)
Day 12 - The Crotch Rope
Today I want you to try the crotch rope! It's a staple element of the denial slut's way of making your cravings and need worse. Learn how to do it, and try wearing it under your clothes.
This is my favourite crotch rope method. Although called a rope, it obviously needs something thinner, string (cotton NOT nylon), or some kind of cord (you can get ‘paracord’ in most supermarkets) is ideal.
You can do lots of variations on this, a simpler one is tying it off at the back, so just stopping at picture 10 with a bow. Or make the ‘bight’ in image 6 at the back and bring it through once so you tie it at the front instead.
If you don't have a string that long then use something simpler with just a shoe lace or a longer boot lace.
But here's a step by step way to do my favourite crotch rope technique.
You're going to put the rope through to make a 'belt' or waistband part first.
Next it goes down between your legs.
Then behind you
Back in front again...
It's great for holding butt plugs and dildos in you too!
But try getting used to crotch ropes, and using them under your clothes to give you that bound, sexy, secret feeling. It's very powerful.
If you like that you can advance to whole body harnesses!
The Duchy is a fabulous site for all kinds of instructions and safety advice. Please make sure you read up on it before you try anything more restrictive than this. They have ways of tying them suitable for thicker rope too which need different techniques.
Day 13 - Reward Day!
This time I'm not letting you have it so easy. You can, as ever, just use how you've got on with your edges and tasks to determine if you should cum today. You set the goal, did you meet it? Well done!
But, if you want it more difficult, and I know you often do, then here's a way to build up and let chance decide what you get...
And if you're not planning to cum for the entire Advent Challenge, then you can just play the game and all the orgasms on the 6 roll are no touch for you, or ruins. Change it for the way you're playing.
Every time you want to edge you have to roll the dice:
Rub your clit
Fuck yourself (fingers or dildo)
Rub or vibe your clit
Yes, that’s only five. For each of the above you roll the dice again,and that’s the number of minutes you get to do it for. You can keep on rolling and playing that way, a new task with a new number of minutes.
Until you roll a six.
When you roll a six, you roll again, but this time it’s to determine what you get:
Clamp your nipples (use clamps or pegs) and scroll through tumblr without touching for ten minutes, then back to the start.
30 pussy smacks with the palm of your hand, each ones should be firmer than the last then back to the start
10 snaps (stretch an elastic band between finger and thumb, pull it back and let it go against your skin - if you don’t have a band, just flick with your finger) on each nipple, then ten to each labia, then ten to your clit, then back to the start
A Ruined Orgasm
A Full Orgasm
Once you complete your forfeit (1-3) you can start over whenever you want.
Once you get (4-6) you're done.
And if you want the extra hard version, you can have 'No Touch' as your 1-3 options so it's 50/50 if you get to cum or not.
Did you enjoy yesterday? I hope so. For those of you who were lucky enough to cum I hope you were thinking of those poor girls who were either ruining theirs or not even cumming at all. I bet they were thinking of you…
On SubscribeStar this is the week’s listing (it got long enough with just five days so I'll post the weekend's task at the end of the week) so you can see what’s ahead, know how to prepare for the next day and mix things around to fit in with your schedule including your period.
Each day you can join with all the others using the online form to be accountable to yourself and me by clicking this link. It's all anonymous and I hope it helps: Daily Feedback Form
Today it’s all back to an even footing.
No touching for everyone!
That’s right, hands off the goods! There’s still a choice for you today. Is it just ‘no touch’ or is it ‘Strict no touch’.
Let’s get some definitions:
No Touch is when you aren’t allowed to directly masturbate, but you are still allowed to play freely above the waist (hello nipples my old friend) and also rubbing againstobjects, but only a little bit, no proper humping, you’re not allowed to get close from it, let alone cumming. It is, yes, just to make things worse.
Strict No Touch is when you’re not allowed any stimulation at all. If you want to still play with your nipples you decide that. I generally think it’s good but you may prefer the idea that you’re allowed no stimulation at all. You can even go as far as not being able to wipe after you pee. Feel free!
Don’t know which you want to be on today? Flip a coin. Heads it’s no touch, tails it’s strict no touch.
Reflections on Edging
Congratulations on lasting through yesterday’s no touch - it’s tougher than you think once you throw it into the midst of more active denial, isn’t it!
So, today we’re going to try something a little bit more introspective.
One of the benefits of denial, that I always bang on about, is how it can make you feel much more comfortable and positive about your body. That mix of arousal and self induced pleasure, along with the whole ‘self love’ element of masturbation anyway, can be such a positive force.
Today we’re going to amplify that.
Your edges today are to be done in front of a mirror (wherever possible).
That’s right, you’re to look at yourself, as you edge.
You can try this a few ways. If you’ve never got up close and personal with your pussy, then I encourage you to play and finger and fuck with a make up mirror held so you can really see and appreciate how amazing it is down there.
If you have a full length mirror then start by stripping slowly in front of it, have some fun (feel free to laugh) putting on some music and getting your thang on as you strip down (doesn’t have to be completely naked, but if you can that’s great), and then lie back, legs spread and watch yourself edge.
If you have a suction cup dildo then sticking it to a mirror and fucking it is super hot. Make sure it’s secure though.
If it can come off the wall then putting it on the floor, sticking the dildo to it and riding it like that will give you some remarkable views!
Or just ride it on the floor looking at yourself:
And then probably my favourite, do it in the bathroom mirror, leaning right in, looking into your own eyes. Intense, amazing, beautiful.
Now I also have an even more cringeworthy task to add to this. On one of those mirrors, take a post it note or stick a piece of paper, on which you’ve written 'You are beautiful’. And just leave it there, to read, to say to yourself, for as long as you want.
Feel free to add others!
Let us know how you get on!
Toys, toys, toys!
We talk a lot about sex toys on this blog, and that’s for one simple reason, they are BRILLIANT!
So today’s task will be different for different categories of you.
For those of you who don’t own any sex toys I want you to look up the diy sexy toys tag on the blog and find some inspiration to try something you can use to move yourself beyond just fingers.
The two easiest options are a hairbrush handle as a dildo, and an electric toothbrush as a clitoral vibe. Read up on the blog and find for each edge you do today, try something different!
Don’t forget a brush with a flat back is also great for some pussy and bottom smacking fun! Try getting just to the edge then giving your pussy a nice smack - it’s a great way to pull back from cumming.
For those of you with toys there will be those of you with a minimal set, and those with lots!
Your challenge is to use your toys in unusual ways. If you’ve just got a vibe or a vibe and dildo you could try things like:
putting the vibe in your panties and grinding on it
gently smacking your pussy with the dildo instead of fucking it
sliding one of them in you and walking around with it in
placing the dildo on a chair and just sliding over it
trying the vibe on your nipples and around the outside of your (clean) ass
If you have lots of toys, dust off some of the old ones and see what new combinations you can experience!
Finally, for everyone, with no toys or plenty, use today to start considering buying a new toy. Whether that’s in a local store, or online, have some fun edging while looking at toys and maybe even buying some.
And if you like my recommendation of our favourite sex toy store, Lovehoney, then you can buy via our affiliate link and it’ll even give us a small amount, so you’re actually supporting the blog (but just type their address into the browser if you object to that).
Explore sex toys at Lovehoney should take you to your country’s store. Their deals of the day are usually great and make sure to check out the sales and offers sections.
Dressing up, for you!
Did I mention that one of the reasons I love edging and denial is how it helps you feel more positive about your body and your sexuality. Okay, once or twice.
So, another thing that can have a similar impact is dressing up. Whether that’s for a date, or an interview or just being with friends, the things we wear can have a huge impact on how we feel.
Now it might be that you already love dressing up, or that you already want to kill me for even suggesting this, but as with all these tasks, let me encourage you to take it at whatever level works for you, but do try and push yourself, you might be surprised.
So this is going to work a few ways, you can do all, or just one of them. The first, and this is one of my favourites, is that you wear your sexiest underwear, under your normal clothes today. This is the heart of this activity, that it’s about how it makes YOU feel, and not how other people see you. Sexy can mean whatever works for you. Just picking your favourite set is great. For me the whole stocking set, especially with a garter belt (we call them suspender belts in the UK) is hard to beat. Why? Because they’re so completely unnecessary. Just all the extra effort they involve, there’s something beautiful about that.
Beyond that, if you wear the panties OVER the belt straps, then it becomes immensely practical, for, you know, taking them off without having to mess with anything else. Handy for edging huh…
For you though, it might be as simple as wearing a thong when you normally wear straight cut panties, or if you want something unusual, try wearing a thong backwards. It’s more than interesting.
If you don’t have any fancy underwear to try, then a fun alternative is getting an old pair of tights (pantyhose) and cutting a slit out over your pussy. Just a slit, not a hole, and they’ll open up and leave your pussy exposed. Some absolutely love this. You can try it with leggings too if you have a pair you don’t care about getting cut, and messy.
So that’s about dressing up, under your clothes.
Now to the outer layer. I want you to have fun dressing up, but not for anyone else. Just for you. You are to dress up, for one of your edges! Really go for it, make up, hair, and most of all something you feel really sexy in. It could be an outfit, it could be clubwear, or favourite nightwear. Dress up, for you (and perhaps a lucky partner if they’re around).
Go sexy, go slutty, go sophisticated, whatever you’re in the mood for.
Then just go for it, a long, sensual edge, reuse some of the things you’ve enjoyed these last few days. Take your time, put on some music or a movie or porn. And then, if you’re pleased with how you’ve got on these last few days, you’re allowed a ruined orgasm to finish the evening off. But it’s entirely optional.
For those of you with more time on your hands today and wanting something a bit riskier, then here’s an extra idea to try.
You’re going to play dress up, but you’re going to do it in your favourite clothes stores! Head in after a good hard edge. Pick out some outfits that you probably would never buy but think might look hot on you. And then spend time in the changing room, trying them on, and edging. Yep, right there. Every time you take an outfit off you’re to slide your fingers between your legs and have a little edge.
This would be a good one to take a sexy friend or denial buddy to. It’s more fun and very amusing to be daring each other to try outfits on.
Don’t forget shoes, try on some crazy heels (don’t trip) just for the hell of it. And if you didn’t have any outfits or lingerie you thought were sexy for the earlier tasks, maybe try buying something. I’m regularly told of all the thngs I get a sub to do, having her buy only good lingerie and wear it every day is one of the most impactful.
Speaking of which, if you’ve never been properly measured for a bra, see if you can get it done as part of this. Having the right fit makes a world of difference, I’m told.
Have fun, and with this one, if you fancy sending in pictures of how you dressed up, at home or in a store, I’m sure everyone would love to see them. But no pressure, it’s only if that turns you on. The core focus of this is you dressing, just for you!
Spread the Word! Tell someone about Denial
Now this is VERY optional, but if you can feel it’s an option I encourage you to try. If not, then your task is a to simply edge while you're on the phone to someone. Or chatting. Just doing it secretly while they have no idea you're doing it.
I genuinely feel like denial, long or short term, is a brilliant, positive kink. It can totally open you up to new experiences, teach you much more about your own sexuality and body and when enjoyed with someone else can be as hot as pretty much anything within the BDSM world.
At a personal level it can help you with developing discipline and self-control, and also be quite powerful in helping alleviate things like anxiety or worries.
Oh yes, and it makes you feel AMAZING!
So, it really is something that is worth sharing, well you know how great it is, I don’t have to tell you. But how do we tell others, that’s the question?
It really depends on your friendship groups. Some of you will have openly kinky friends and it’ll be as simple as saying ‘Hey, I’m doing this Denial Challenge, have you heard about it? I thought it might be fun if a few of us tried it.’
But most of us don’t have friends we can tap up so easily, so that’s when we need a more subtle tactic.
So if you have close friends who you share a lot with and sex is part of that, but just don’t have the openness about your kinkiness for the previous approach, then something like this could work. We link it into the recent trend for ‘challenges’
Have you heard about this Denial Challenge thing? I was browsing on Tumblr and saw it, and it sounded interesting. It’s a sexy self control thing, where you have to try not to cum for a month! Apparently it gives you this natural ‘High’ - sounds kind of cool.
So at this point they are either going to show some interest, or make it pretty clear this is not for them. In which case you stop. But if they DO show some interest then we have a wonderful magic trick…
Google loves my blog. You don’t have to tell someone about it in detail, you can ‘act’ vague, you can simply say ‘Google ‘Female Orgasm Denial’’ and the blog pops up right near the top
‘Oh yeah, that must be the one, click on that and have a look. They’ve called it ‘The Advent Denial Challenge’ or something like that. Oh there it is. Let them have a read and if they show some interesting… ‘I think I might give it a go! Want to make it a competition?
Even if they don’t, you’ve used a very nonthreatening way to introduce them to the idea of denial, that you’re going to try it, and give you the chance to discuss it with them another time. If they are the slightest bit curious they’re going to start reading more of the blog… and you know what that does to you, don’t you. And if they don’t, but they’re positive about it, maybe ask if they’ll keep you accountable as a way to encourage you to be self-controlled. What are friends for after all!
And if they do fancy trying it, keep it low key, communicate vaguely about the fact you are doing it, and how it’s making you feel. Ask them if they are too, and how they are finding it. Just take your lead from them, and maybe pick out some ideas and even captions to share with them in the future.
So remember, no pressure to do this at all, but if you love edging and denial, and they are a good friend, then they may well be interested. Because believe me, this stuff is REALLY fascinating.
So go and spread the gospel of denial my lovelys! Fly, FLLLLYYYY!
I hope that's worked having five days in a go. Do remember to keep telling me how're you doing and feel free to message me here, on Tumblr or email me at [email protected]