Getting Started with an Unsure Partner: A Guide
Bringing a partner into ABDL, especially one who’s curious but hesitant, is all about patience, communication, and making it a positive experience for both of you. The goal isn’t to push them into anything, but to help them explore at their own pace, discovering what they enjoy along the way.

Start with lots and lots of conversation. Ask what intrigues them, what makes them nervous, and what boundaries they want to set. Listen more than you talk. If they’re unsure, focus on the parts that sound fun or comforting to them,maybe it’s the coziness of diapers, the playfulness of babyish things, or just the idea of letting go of responsibility for a little while. Meet them where they are, not where you want them to be.

Show them how happy it makes you when they indulge, even in small ways. If they try on a diaper, gush about how cute they look. If they let you feed them a baby snack, make it clear how much you love taking care of them. Your enthusiasm can be contagious, but keep it genuine. They should feel celebrated, not pressured.

Find the things they enjoy about it. Maybe they like the sound of crinkles, the feeling of being tucked in, or the silliness of a pacifier. Maybe they just love how relaxed they feel when they’re being little. Whatever it is, lean into it. Make those moments the focus, and let the rest unfold naturally.

Go slow. Let them dip a toe in, then pull back if they need to. Some days they might want to be all-in; other days, they might just want to cuddle with a stuffed animal. Both are okay. The more they associate regression with warmth, joy, and safety, the more they’ll want to explore.

And remember: this is about their comfort as much as yours. If they’re happy, you’ll be happy. If they’re having fun, you’ll have fun. Keep the lines of communication open, stay playful, and let them discover their little side at their own speed. The rest will follow.