In My Opinion

 56% percent of married men fantasize about their wives having sex with other men according to studies.

 Of those, maybe 20 percent actually go through with it.

I happen to be the wife of a man who enjoys it when I fuck other men. I also happen to love it. After all, what’s not to like? I get to meet handsome, sexy men and, with my husband’s encouragement, I have sex with them.

 If you’re inclined to engage in some slut-shaming, this would be the time. However, I prefer you just keep that to yourself. mmm’kay? Thanks!

I’ve read a lot of theories as to why men fantasize about their wives fucking other men. I think most of those theories are full of crap. Here are a few of those cockamamie (see what I did there?) theories.

Some psychologists say that men like the idea of their wives fucking other guys because of a thing called compersion. That’s when somebody enjoys knowing that a loved one is experiencing pleasure even if they, themselves are not involved.

If that’s all it is, my husband could achieve compersion by giving me a nice plate of chocolate chip cookies, pouring me a glass of cold milk, and sit across the table to watch me enjoy.

Or, he could get a brand new credit card, drop me off at the mall, and say, “Don’t call me to pick you up until the card is maxed out.”

Now, that’s compersion! No fucking other guys involved.

I call total BS on this one. Supposedly, there is some biological need for men to put their seed into a woman so that they can beat the other guy’s sperm to the finish line — Puuullleeeezz!
When I come home from a Hotwife date, after two hours of hot sex with another man, I’m 100 percent certain that Mark’s thoughts are not, “I gotta get my sperm in there before the other guy’s little beasties reach the egg!”
Mark has plenty of delicious, sexy thoughts about me having naked, Hotwife sex, but Sperm Competition is definitely not one of them.
Besides, when the other guy shoots his load onto my tits, there’s no need for sperm competition. All those little tadpoles are going to be dead in a few minutes, anyway.

To this one, I have to give a little credence. Men are visual creatures. Having pictures of me in the throes of hot sex with other guys is definitely a turn-on for Mark. I can get into looking at them, myself under the right conditions.
Also, my husband enjoys watching me in person as I’m getting fucked by another guy or two.
So yeah — there is voyeurism involved.
But, that’s the case with any sexual encounter, isn’t it? The visual is very much part of sex. When some guy is standing over me stroking his hard cock, I become quite the voyeur.

I can only speak for one man on this issue. But, Mark is most assuredly not bisexual. Not even a little bit, and nothing latent. His enjoyment of me getting banged by another man is not in any way driven by some hidden desire to see the other guy’s dick.
Of this, I am one hundred percent sure. Cross that idea off the list.

Being a Hotwife is empowering. That’s absolutely true.
Mark has always supported my endeavors in all areas, not just as a woman, but as his best friend and partner in life. That has nothing to do with his reasons for encouraging me to have sex with other men.
He wishes the best for me. But, I could never imagine him saying, “Darling, I want you to feel more empowered. Why don’t you go fuck and suck a few other guys to help you feel more confident.”
Uh….. no.
So, what is it, then? What makes a husband encourage his wife to be a sexual vixen? I’m no psychologist. I have no scientific data to back this up. But, I have a theory as to why many men fantasize and even encourage their wives to be naked in the arms of other men.

I wrote an article some time ago called It's The Skirts Who Rule, in which I said that in general, women control whether or not there will be sex. It’s their power.
Men are naturally envious of that power. A man with a loving wife might begin to think about how she could go out and pick up a man for sex with little effort.
He realizes that the woman who stands in the kitchen making pancakes for the kids in the morning could easily dress up that same night, go to a bar, and end up with a stranger’s cock between her legs with little effort.
She won’t do that because it would be cheating, betraying her marriage, and risking everything she holds dear. But, she could! That idea of it is a huge turn-on. That’s why stories of cheating wives are so popular.
Her husband doesn’t want to be a woman. He doesn’t want to have sex with men. But, he envies the potential sexual power that his wife holds.
The next best thing he can do is fantasize about it. When he imagines her with other men it gives him a vicarious thrill. The woman he loves could be turning on other men and even fucking them. That thought may stir jealousy, but it also can stir erotic impulses.
As I said, more than half of married men have this fantasy, and a surprisingly large number actually go through with it and let their wives fuck other men. Mine happens to be one of them.
That works for me.